Is It More Than a Friendship?

Claire Ritter

By Claire Ritter

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Is It More Than a Friendship?

Someone who has unexpressed feelings usually goes through an awkward period. They’re not quite ready to confess how they feel because they’re not sure how the person feels about them, and they don’t want to feel foolish.

The list we’ve gathered below is useful for both; the person you’re interested in and for you. You can do the things we’ve listed below to show them you wish you were more than friends, or you look out for any signs to see if they have feelings for you too.

1. They’ve confessed their feelings.

This is the most straightforward way of finding out if someone likes you and wants to be more than friends with you. If they’re being sincere with you and have confessed their feelings to you, then they definitely think of you as more than just a friend.

There is no better way to understand that there is something more between you; they are literally telling you exactly what they feel for you.

2. They are giving you subtle cues.

When someone likes you, you can usually tell by looking out for subtle cues. You might notice them acting nervous, constantly avoiding eye contact, or mentioning they’re tired of being single. They’re not acting kind of strange for no reason; it’s because they have feelings for you.

3. You noticed that they prefer alone time.

It’s become quite clear that they prefer to spend time with you one on one instead of having other people there or doing group activities. This is a clear sign they like you and they’re trying to spend more quality time with you.

If you allow this to happen more and more, it’ll become clearer that they always put off doing things with other people if they choose to do something with just you.

4. They are always messaging and calling you.

They’re constantly in touch with you. When you’re no longer together, they’re always texting or calling you to see how you are and what your day was like. Even if you just hung out, you can be sure you’ll receive a message from them shortly after.

It will likely come with an excuse, such as asking if you made it home safely, and then they’ll change the subject to keep the conversation going.

5. They go out of their way to see you.

Even though you know they have things to do, they go out of their way to spend time with you. It might not be convenient for them, but they make it work if it means spending time with you. If you notice someone doing this for you, it’s not just because they think you’re cool and fun to be around.

They have to have feelings for you if they’re going so far out of their way for you when you’re not even together.

6. You’re making future plans together.

When someone doesn’t have feelings for you, they make plans with you more casually and are in no rush to solidify any plans. However, when someone has feelings for you, they’ll be so excited to have something to look forward to that involves you that it’ll have them making plans with you frequently.

If you’re wondering whether or not they like you, you can also take it as a sign they really do have feelings for you because they have faith that you’ll still be talking when that future date comes along.

7. There is chemistry between you.

smiling at each other.
Chemistry in between two adults.

You feel a spark between yourself and this person because there is something more between the two of you. If you feel like you have a deeper connection with this person, you’re probably not wrong.

Some people have a hard time figuring out if they have chemistry with someone, but trust that when you know, you’ll know.

8. Other people notice.

You know there’s something more going on when other people start noticing something between you. They might even point out something you haven’t noticed, like how that person looks at you or certain body language they have with you.

If you think you’ve noticed subtle clues they might be into you, it’s an extremely positive sign for someone else to have picked up on it too.

9. They pay for you when you go out.

It’s possible for friends to treat each other to dinner, but usually, if they’re paying for you when you go out, it’s because they’re trying to be extra nice and maybe even use it as a way to hint at wanting a date with you.

This sign on its own might not be enough to justify that they have feelings for you or think of you as more than a friend, but in unison with other signs mentioned in this list, it could be.

10. You spend a lot of time together.

Couple on top of a car.
Spending time together.

When you like someone, you want to spend a lot of time with them. You tend to look forward to spending time together, even if you’re doing a simple activity. So if you notice that you’re suddenly spending a lot of time together, it could indicate your friendship is something more.

Pay attention to how often you see each other during the week and if that person is making time just to see you. If, aside from seeing you frequently, they also set time aside for you during their busy day, you can be certain you’re more than friends.

11. You get jealous.

Jealousy isn’t something to be ashamed of as long as you don’t go crazy. In this case, you can use jealousy to your advantage. You probably don’t experience jealousy between your friends, but if you’re jealous when this friend, in particular, hangs out with other people, you might want to ask yourself why that is.

12. You tell each other everything.

You tell each other everything because you feel comfortable with this person, probably more comfortable than with other people. You feel like they know you and won’t judge you for anything. This is a special bond that few people share, and it’s likely a sign that you’re more than friends.

13. You feel like they’re your best friend.

Most of the time, you form a connection with someone before you’re romantically involved with them. This connection, in combination with spending a lot of time together, telling each other everything, and trusting this person more than anyone else, could be what is transitioning you into ‘more than friends’ territory.

14. You get a feeling they might make a move.

If you feel like they’re trying to find an opportunity to get closer to you, touch your hand, sit next to you, or even find the right time to lean in for a kiss, you’re probably right. They probably are trying to do one of those things to let you know how they feel about you without saying it. Using words to confess your feelings can be tricky, and this is another way they might try to do that.

15. They bring up their relationship status a lot.

They’re letting you know how single they are for a reason. They might also talk about how they wish to meet someone like you. It’s pretty obvious if they’re making this type of comment, they think of you as more than a friend, and they’re trying to see if you feel the same way.

They might also talk about how single you are, not to make you feel bad about it, but to inspire you to change that by going out with them.

16. You don’t date other people.

You’re not dating, and you haven’t talked about being exclusive either; you just don’t date other people because you wish you were dating each other.

It’s like an unspoken rule you have between the two of you. It wasn’t always like this, but when you started having feelings for each other, you lost all interest in dating other people.

17. You’re flirty with each other.

This is a major sign that you’re more than friends. People who are just friends don’t flirt with each other. Flirting only happens when deeper feelings are involved and a desire for something more to happen with that person. You can also use light flirting to test the waters and see how that person reacts or if they flirt back.

18. They’ve told their friends about you.

It’s one thing for their friends to notice that something is going on between the two of you, and it’s another for this person to be telling their friends about you, even when nothing is official.

If one of their friends tells you they’ve been talking about you, they clearly have feelings for you, and you’re definitely more than friends.


Take your time to analyze the possible relationship you have at hand. You won’t notice all of these signs right away, but it will happen fairly quickly. Make sure you’re paying close attention if you want to figure out if you’re more than friends.

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