How to Flirt

Elena Knight

By Elena Knight

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How to Flirt

The world of romance and relationships is a tough area to navigate. People’s emotions change, other relationships are formed, and you never quite know what will happen.

Say there is a person in your life. You want some type of romantic relationship, but you don’t know how to tell them. The best way to get someone to realize that you are into them is to flirt with them.

What Is Flirting?

To master flirting, you have to have a general understanding of what it is. When you flirt with someone, you behave as though you are physically and/or emotionally attracted towards someone. Flirting is a general language utilized to communicate your feelings of interest.

Also, flirting gives you a platform to tell someone how you feel without actually saying specific words. Of course, if you want to flirt with someone and tell them “I like you”, you are more than allowed to do that. But in the long run, some people won’t receive something as forward as that as great as you may hope. The key is to learn and understand what form of flirting will work best on the opposite party.

Tricks for Subtle Flirting

Tips for subtle flirting.
The best tips for subtle flirting.

In the flirting universe, it can take a lot of courage to let someone know how you feel. So some people like to be more subtle with their flirtations to not come across as intensely as they could.

You don’t want to overwhelm the person you are flirting with or make them uncomfortable, so it is important to be respectful and mindful. Sometimes you just have to play it safe. If you want to keep it subtle, try these tricks:

Mimicking body language

Making small changes to mimic their body language is a great subtle way to flirt with someone. People appreciate it when someone gives them full attention. Lean in when they speak, and always try to keep eye contact when talking to you. These things show that you respect them and want them to keep talking to you.


Smiling is key to any subtle flirt. If they perceive that you are happy when you are around them/talking to them, they’ll know that you have some level of interest. This is also an opportunity to show confidence, which is a commonly attractive feature among most people. Often, a smile can be your most attractive feature in a conversation, so don’t be afraid to flaunt it.

Use humor

Cracking jokes and getting someone to laugh will already make them enjoy their time with you. You can even get creative and crack a few flirty jokes, like teasing them about their hair or clothes, so they know that you’ve been paying attention to how they look. This is a great way to creatively compliment someone instead of saying an outright compliment. And if they are joking around as well, it is more than okay to laugh and show them that you find them to be funny. It will boost their confidence and make them want to joke around with you even more.

Acknowledge their talents

Maybe they can do a hundred skateboard tricks, or they have the most beautiful singing voice you’ve ever heard. Let them know how talented you think they are. It’s a sweet way to compliment someone without focusing on their physical appearance. And if their talent is incorporated in their career, you’ll be able to boost their confidence in that topic as well, making this a win-win situation.

Ask them questions

Getting to know everything you can about someone will give you a great advantage. If you can prove to remember the little things and pay attention when they talk to you, they’ll notice that you care about what they have to say. Plus, if you are really interested in them, it’ll be a great opportunity to continue the conversation and test out some of the other flirting tricks.

How to Flirt With a Woman

The right approach to flirt with women.
The right approach to flirt with women.

Keep it simple

You can make a girl’s day by giving her small compliments. Tell her she’s pretty, or tell her that her smile is beautiful. It’s almost guaranteed that that moment will stay with her for a while because of how much it will mean to her. Of course, you can always shift the focus to her personality and compliment her on that as well. If you take the time to pause and comment on those things, she will know that you are paying attention and that you care.

Be courteous

If it’s raining outside, share your umbrella. If she looks cold, give her your jacket. In the days of courting, an old-fashioned gentleman could get a long way. Practice chivalry around her, and make sure that she knows you are around to support her. Those little moments will not go unnoticed, and she will see that you are acting in sincerity.

Giving gifts

You’ll want to refrain from being too generous or forward, but small gifts can say things that you may not be able to say just yet. Pay for her coffee, and maybe buy her dinner. These things won’t go unnoticed, and it will show that you are stepping up.

Protect her

Of course, a woman can fight her own fights. But having someone to back you up and defend you at all times means a lot. Even if you tell one of your guy friends to back off when he’s being rude to her, it will stand out. If you want her to be your girl, you have to stand up for her like she already is.

How to Flirt With a Man

Wear lipstick

Choose a color that pops with your skin tone so that you can shift the focus to your lips. A classic red lip would be the best recommendation since it is associated with love and sensuality. By bringing the focus to your lips, your smile may seem more flirtatious, and you may be able to capture him with just a few words.

Play with your hair

With this timeless classic move that they show in all of the movies, you’ll catch some eyes. Science can’t explain it, but something about messing with your hair will get any guy’s attention. Maybe give it a little twirl or flip, but make sure you’re not making it obvious. You want to catch a guy’s attention but make him wonder why he can’t stop staring at you.

Don’t be afraid to reach out and touch

A lot of guys enjoy physical touch as a form of flirtation. There is an art to touch, mainly because you never want to make uncomfortable the person you are flirting with. A fun trick to make a guy feel good is to touch his arm. Whether you are just walking by and you leave your hand on his forearm for a moment longer than needed, he will probably notice.

Many guys are nervous about making that first initial trust, especially since they don’t want you to be uncomfortable. It just may be up to you to break that touch barrier and make the first slight move.


Mastering the art of flirtation is no easy feat. It takes practice and a lot of patience. It’s okay to be nervous, and you may feel anxious as well. Take a deep breath, and go for it.

As you are trying these tricks to subtle flirting, don’t forget to be yourself as well. Every part of you that you can incorporate (your quirks, your tendencies) into flirting, you should. It will only make the moment more unique and special for both of you. And if you slip up and things get awkward, you can always just laugh it off. The dating world can be full of awkward moments, so know that you aren’t the only one dealing with that.

Don’t forget to be confident! The more confident you can be, the better off you will be in the long run. Any person is more likely to be drawn to someone that not only appears to be confident but radiates it as well. You still have to stay on the fine line between confidence and cockiness, though. Be careful, and try to avoid coming on too strong at any point in time. You are there to flirt with someone else, not yourself.

No matter what, flirting is all about having fun and making someone else feel good. Whether you are looking for a relationship with this person or just enjoying their company, it should all be in good spirits. Sometimes people end up making simple tasks like flirting very seriously when there is no need. Try to relax and just have a good time with that special someone, and focus less on where it has to go. Let things ebb and flow the way they need to.

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