Signs You Are Unofficially Dating

By Elena Knight

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Sometimes, you don’t realize you are spending a lot of time with one particular person. This could be because it makes you feel good to be around them, or maybe they make you really happy.

There are many occasions when a relationship begins without making it official until, eventually, it is. Below you will find out if you are in a relationship with that person and you just don’t know it yet.

1. Constant phone calls.

If you or he are constantly calling each other to know what the other one is doing, where they are, what’s going on in their life that day, or simply because you want to share something small that happened to you, this could be a sign that you worry about each other and you consider each other more than just friends.

2. Constant text messages.

Text messages in the morning, afternoon, and evening, or any time of day really, indicate that you are and want to continue to be in contact with each other constantly. Especially good morning texts or good night texts will tell you that you are definitely on his mind as soon as he wakes up and right when the day is over.

Constant messaging just to continue talking throughout the day, with no particular reason besides that, is a very good sign that you are in a relationship and you haven’t noticed.

3. Jealousy.

If you or he start asking why you were hanging out with someone else or what you were doing with that other person, it normally indicates there is jealousy. Although jealousy and asking for explanations isn’t healthy in a relationship, it means he cares about you.

He doesn’t want to feel threatened by anyone else that may be interested in you or that wants to try to take his place another way around. This is one of the clearest signs you may be in a relationship without realizing you are.

4. Family introductions.

Met their family.
If you’ve met their family.

If you start introducing each other to your families, it’s clear that you aren’t just looking for something short-term or just for fun, but instead a long-term, more serious relationship. If you have yet to establish a relationship, but you’re introducing each other to your families, or you’ve talked about meeting each other’s families, it’s a clear sign you care a lot about each other and that you’re very important to one another.

5. You’ve met their friends.

You've met their friends.
You’ve met their friends.

Similar to family introductions, meeting their friends is also an important step that he probably wouldn’t take if he wasn’t serious about you. He’s not going to introduce someone he’s only casually seeing.

His friends know too much about him and could easily embarrass him. However, he’s not embarrassed for you to get to know his goofiest side when it comes to you.

6. Free time is time together.

If you want to be together whenever you have free time, then this means that you don’t want to set aside time for other things besides seeing each other and being together.

Although this isn’t healthy for any relationship, and everyone needs to have space to get things done and develop as a person individually, this is still a sign that he is very interested in spending time with you as partners. Usually, this is just a phase, most likely happening at the beginning of the relationship.

7. He worries more than he needs to.

If something bad happens to you, even if you are okay, he worries a lot about you until he can be with you to make sure you are okay. He wants to do anything he can to help you, and he wants to help solve the problem or make you feel better to the best of his abilities.

If the situation is reversed, you do the same for him. This means you are more serious than you may have realized. 

8. Social media interaction.

If you’re constantly liking each other’s posts and commenting on each other’s pictures without worrying if others read it and what they will think because you just want to make them feel good about what they posted, you’re probably more than friends.

9. Sharing each other on social media.

Posting with each other on social media can also indicate you are more than friends. If you’re on each other’s stories or you tag each other when you post, there is more going on.

10. Holding hands.

Holding hands is a clear sign that you are unofficially dating, in case you haven’t made it official yet, along with constant hugs and holding hands in public, like when you go on a walk. This sign is enough to let you know you are unofficially dating. If you notice this is something that happens, feel free to take it as a sign you can make it official.

11. You talk to each other about personal problems.

If you tell each other when you’re going through something difficult, or when you worry that you just can’t get out of your head, you’re probably unofficially dating. You seek emotional support from that person, and you think they’re the only one who will help you feel better and overcome the problem you are facing.

12. You’re not dating other people.

If you were previously talking to other people, you cut things off with them as soon as things with this person started getting more serious. You have no interest in talking to other people, or going on dates with other people, and he feels the same way. You’re exclusively interested in each other.

13. You talk about them a lot.

You find yourself talking about them to other people. You want everyone to know about them, and you have so many positive things to say about them you want to share that with everyone. You can’t wait for everyone in your life to get the chance to get to know them.

14. What they think matters to you.

You care about what they think, and you value their opinion. You run an idea past them to see what they have to say about it because you’re interested in their input, and you want them to share their point of view with you.

15. You have nicknames for each other.

If you have nicknames for each other, you are definitely more than friends. Although you can have nicknames in a friendship situation, chances are these are cuter nicknames, which is a huge sign that you are unofficially dating.

16. You know what each other’s favorite things are.

Usually, people don’t remember what others in their lives like or prefer. So if you can remember these things about this person, you are much more than friends. He also knows all your likes and dislikes.

What to Do Next

Now that you know that you have much stronger feelings for each other than just friends, you might be wondering what to do next? Follow these tips to take the next step and make it official.

Talk about your feelings.

The first and most important thing to do if you are in this situation is to be straightforward and tell them how you feel. Although you both may have noticed the different signs mentioned above, hearing someone lay out all of their feelings is totally different.

It will force them to address their feelings too, and you can have a conversation with each other about what those feelings mean to you both.

Ask yourself why you haven’t made it official yet.

You might want to ask yourself why you haven’t made it official yet, and see if there is anything in the way of making it official or if you’re just putting it off or simply comfortable with the way things are right now.

If something is standing between that decision being made, you should address whatever that is so you can take the next step. There is no time like the present to make it official with the person you care so much about.

Make sure the timing is okay.

One thing is to be experiencing all of these signs within a very short time of knowing each other, and another is to have gotten the chance to learn more about one another first.

You want to make sure you’re not going too fast and that although you are experiencing all of these things, you do really know the person as well.

Make it official.

If the timing is okay, and you’ve got the chance to really get to know who they are, you’ve talked about your feelings, and all that’s left to do is make it official, then go for it. Talk about wanting to make it official and shoot your shot.

It is incredibly unlikely that they won’t be interested in being in a relationship with you because you’re practically in one without realizing it.

Final note

Remember, if you are unsure if you’re unofficially dating this person or not, just go through the list of signs mentioned above and see which ones are present. If you realize that more than three of them are true for you, you are 100% unofficially dating, and the next step is to make it official.

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